I'm too overwhelmed in my own grief.
I felt I was making progress in my own grief. I was doing much better.
I don't know if it's the Haleigh Cummings story or going through the newspapers articles on Denise that have set me back. I think it's a combination.
I had already pretty much decided that I best not look at Haleigh news anymore. I still pray with all my heart they find her. But the stories about her family are breaking my heart. I don't understand why people hurt children. I can't wrap my mind around it.
Cutting out the newspaper articles on Denise hasn't helped. It just makes me miss Denise all the more. She was so wonderful.
And I barely knew her. She was so shy. I tried to draw her out and then I stopped. I thought "heck! We have years together. Why push her? We'll have holidays, baseball games, shopping and lunches! We have years ahead of us to forge a bond." So, I didn't push her. And it never happened. All I knew was that she was a great mommy and a wonderful wife to my son. We got along, we chatted but did we bond? Maybe some but not nearly as much as we could have.
I'm so so sorry, Denise. I hope I didn't let you down. I miss you, sweetheart.
Good news is you are saving lives. Nathan and Mark are out in San Diego. Nathan is to give his speech in the morning. I'm so so proud of him. You would be too. I love you, baby.
Showing posts with label Hayleigh Cummings. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Hayleigh Cummings. Show all posts
Monday, February 23, 2009
Last night's comment on Haleigh Cummings Rant Thread
Last night I received this comment on my rant:
Geraldo had a reason for going after the father. He has a photograph of a very beaten up Haleigh. It seems the child has been abused, and on multiple occasions. The legal dept. at Fox is trying to confirm the validity of the photo, as well as any legal ramifications, before they release it. Geraldo is merely doing his job, maa'm. If the child was abused, then I would say that's pretty relevant, wouldn't you? Anonymous
see link: http://toosad4words.blogspot.com/2009/02/rant-little-haleigh-cummings-and-her.html
How to respond?
Until Fox verifies the photo, I believe it's best to hold onto this type of, yes, I would agree very crucial information. But apparently Fox hasn't verified the photo.
Shouldn't Fox give the photo to the police? Who in their right mind would give the photo to FoxNews and not the police?
That's sick. And it's still wrong IMNSHO to go after the father until they have their facts straight.
Sick. When Denise was missing a witness came forward who claimed to have seen her at the post office "without" the kids. That's pretty bad stuff. For anyone to think Denise would leave the kids home a lone was ludicrous. It's been proved she wasn't at the post office and she never left her kids. But you know what? Because it was reported, people believed it. I still get people asking me about the post office.
All along it was some nut case who only wanted his/her 5 minutes of fame.
So, dear FoxNews, please give the photo to police and verify it before you report it. Because, personally, I'm not going to believe it until it's proven.
added edit: I would very much like to know 'who' gave this photo to police. And I'd look very critically at that person. Why wasn't the photo given to DCF at the time of the alleged abuse? Does the police have a copy of the photo too? Who leaked this if they do, and what agenda do they have? It's just too sad.
Geraldo had a reason for going after the father. He has a photograph of a very beaten up Haleigh. It seems the child has been abused, and on multiple occasions. The legal dept. at Fox is trying to confirm the validity of the photo, as well as any legal ramifications, before they release it. Geraldo is merely doing his job, maa'm. If the child was abused, then I would say that's pretty relevant, wouldn't you? Anonymous
see link: http://toosad4words.blogspot.com/2009/02/rant-little-haleigh-cummings-and-her.html
How to respond?
Until Fox verifies the photo, I believe it's best to hold onto this type of, yes, I would agree very crucial information. But apparently Fox hasn't verified the photo.
Shouldn't Fox give the photo to the police? Who in their right mind would give the photo to FoxNews and not the police?
That's sick. And it's still wrong IMNSHO to go after the father until they have their facts straight.
Sick. When Denise was missing a witness came forward who claimed to have seen her at the post office "without" the kids. That's pretty bad stuff. For anyone to think Denise would leave the kids home a lone was ludicrous. It's been proved she wasn't at the post office and she never left her kids. But you know what? Because it was reported, people believed it. I still get people asking me about the post office.
All along it was some nut case who only wanted his/her 5 minutes of fame.
So, dear FoxNews, please give the photo to police and verify it before you report it. Because, personally, I'm not going to believe it until it's proven.
added edit: I would very much like to know 'who' gave this photo to police. And I'd look very critically at that person. Why wasn't the photo given to DCF at the time of the alleged abuse? Does the police have a copy of the photo too? Who leaked this if they do, and what agenda do they have? It's just too sad.
Sunday, February 22, 2009
A Rant: Little Haleigh Cummings and her family
Disclosure: posted in both my blogs (it's that much of a rant!)
Apparently there's a lot of speculation going around about this family. The poor beleaguered dad is almost on trial. The poor beleaguered mom isn't helping the situation.
I hope and pray for this young child's sake that this family does all it can to stay together and represent a united front.
By infighting and pointing fingers of past offenses they are only making their suffering worse.
I wish somehow, someone would get this message across to them. .
Geraldo Rivera was issued a no trespassing warrant because he brought up some disgusting stuff with some terribly foul questions. He had the cruelty to pose those questions to the distraught father. That's just wrong. The father hasn't been indicted on any charges and to ask him questions about abuse during his marriage while his little girl is lost well...... Having a bad marriage doesn't make you a murderer. And the mom lost custody. She must've lost custody for a reason. To say there's some bitterness there would probably be an understatement.
This family needs to rise above their petty squabbling and stand together. If and when Haleigh comes back she's going to need BOTH her parents.
Maybe people like Geraldo don't think they are being cruel. Maybe they believe they have the right of free speech to ask any question they'd like.
Well, I submit to you that maybe they do have that right. But it doesn't make the right thing to do.
If these people had just an inkling of the pain that this family is going through they'd shut their foul mouths and wait for the police to do their jobs. They'd stop pointing fingers. They'd help the police. They'd help the family.
I imagine the Cummings family has friends who are helping them. I hope they have a community that is supporting them.
I'm telling you that when someone in your family goes missing, you can't handle any more pain.
Gosh, I'd wish they'd find this poor little girl.
Again, what has the world come to? Why are people hurting our kids? What is it in Florida? Is it Florida? Or is it everywhere and we just get all the bad pub?
Pilar Rodriguez, Carlie Brucia, Jessica Lunsford, Coral Rose Fullwood, Trenton Duckett, Caylee Anthony, Haleigh Cummings.......... And those just off the top of my head.
In more than one of the cases above the public scrutinized the families horribly and were wrong.
Let's look at these cases.
Pilar is still unsolved. They think she was abducted by her babysitter.
Carlie Brucia was abducted by a stranger and murdered. Her mother was pretty much and still is on trial by the community. Last tihing I heard she was drugged out and possibly a hooker or maybe it was a stripper. Who knows if that's correct? Bottom line is the child was taken by a stranger!
Jessica Lunsofrd was abducted by a stranger and murdered. Her dad was suspect in the beginning. Everyone was sure he did it or that the grandparents had been neglectful. People still mention the dad and saying he should'nt have gone out on a date that night and he should've been home. Sheesh.
Coral Rose Fullwood was abducted and murdered by a stranger. Possibly more than one. Immediately the family was put on trial. Reports of child abuse and neglect. The children were taken away from the parents. There were reports of human feces on the walls of their home. The father had child porn on his computer. But! Bottom line it's a stranger who's awaiting trial in jail. No connection to the Fullwood's has been proved.
Trenton Duckett remains unsolved. His mom was blamed by the public and the press. She was never arrested. But, she committed suicide after Nancy Grace went after her. Trenton is still missing. Gee. So, losing a child and having to deal with the predators of the press can lead to suicide. Who knows? Maybe she was guilty of something. Sadly, because of the press, we'll never know. The police were unable to do their jobs.
Caylee Anthony. Who knows? I can't even begin to write about her case. But the mom's in jail. It took them a long time to get her in jail but she's there. Who knows what went on with the grandparents? Has the press distorted the facts or are the grandparents as whacked out as we've been led to believe?
Which leads us to Haleigh Cummings. And WE DON'T KNOW ANYTHING! IMO it's best to let the police do their jobs. The family IMO should shut up to the press, cooperate with the police and stay united. These reports about them pointing fingers and mentioning past transgressions is not good for them and it's not good for Haleigh.
God give them strength and courage. They have a long road ahead of them no matter what's found out.
I continue to keep the entire family (both sides) in my prayers.
added edit: I really need to send a thank you to the press who have handled our case. You truly on the most part have shown compassion towards us and you have helped us. Thank you for that.
Apparently there's a lot of speculation going around about this family. The poor beleaguered dad is almost on trial. The poor beleaguered mom isn't helping the situation.
I hope and pray for this young child's sake that this family does all it can to stay together and represent a united front.
By infighting and pointing fingers of past offenses they are only making their suffering worse.
I wish somehow, someone would get this message across to them. .
Geraldo Rivera was issued a no trespassing warrant because he brought up some disgusting stuff with some terribly foul questions. He had the cruelty to pose those questions to the distraught father. That's just wrong. The father hasn't been indicted on any charges and to ask him questions about abuse during his marriage while his little girl is lost well...... Having a bad marriage doesn't make you a murderer. And the mom lost custody. She must've lost custody for a reason. To say there's some bitterness there would probably be an understatement.
This family needs to rise above their petty squabbling and stand together. If and when Haleigh comes back she's going to need BOTH her parents.
Maybe people like Geraldo don't think they are being cruel. Maybe they believe they have the right of free speech to ask any question they'd like.
Well, I submit to you that maybe they do have that right. But it doesn't make the right thing to do.
If these people had just an inkling of the pain that this family is going through they'd shut their foul mouths and wait for the police to do their jobs. They'd stop pointing fingers. They'd help the police. They'd help the family.
I imagine the Cummings family has friends who are helping them. I hope they have a community that is supporting them.
I'm telling you that when someone in your family goes missing, you can't handle any more pain.
Gosh, I'd wish they'd find this poor little girl.
Again, what has the world come to? Why are people hurting our kids? What is it in Florida? Is it Florida? Or is it everywhere and we just get all the bad pub?
Pilar Rodriguez, Carlie Brucia, Jessica Lunsford, Coral Rose Fullwood, Trenton Duckett, Caylee Anthony, Haleigh Cummings.......... And those just off the top of my head.
In more than one of the cases above the public scrutinized the families horribly and were wrong.
Let's look at these cases.
Pilar is still unsolved. They think she was abducted by her babysitter.
Carlie Brucia was abducted by a stranger and murdered. Her mother was pretty much and still is on trial by the community. Last tihing I heard she was drugged out and possibly a hooker or maybe it was a stripper. Who knows if that's correct? Bottom line is the child was taken by a stranger!
Jessica Lunsofrd was abducted by a stranger and murdered. Her dad was suspect in the beginning. Everyone was sure he did it or that the grandparents had been neglectful. People still mention the dad and saying he should'nt have gone out on a date that night and he should've been home. Sheesh.
Coral Rose Fullwood was abducted and murdered by a stranger. Possibly more than one. Immediately the family was put on trial. Reports of child abuse and neglect. The children were taken away from the parents. There were reports of human feces on the walls of their home. The father had child porn on his computer. But! Bottom line it's a stranger who's awaiting trial in jail. No connection to the Fullwood's has been proved.
Trenton Duckett remains unsolved. His mom was blamed by the public and the press. She was never arrested. But, she committed suicide after Nancy Grace went after her. Trenton is still missing. Gee. So, losing a child and having to deal with the predators of the press can lead to suicide. Who knows? Maybe she was guilty of something. Sadly, because of the press, we'll never know. The police were unable to do their jobs.
Caylee Anthony. Who knows? I can't even begin to write about her case. But the mom's in jail. It took them a long time to get her in jail but she's there. Who knows what went on with the grandparents? Has the press distorted the facts or are the grandparents as whacked out as we've been led to believe?
Which leads us to Haleigh Cummings. And WE DON'T KNOW ANYTHING! IMO it's best to let the police do their jobs. The family IMO should shut up to the press, cooperate with the police and stay united. These reports about them pointing fingers and mentioning past transgressions is not good for them and it's not good for Haleigh.
God give them strength and courage. They have a long road ahead of them no matter what's found out.
I continue to keep the entire family (both sides) in my prayers.
added edit: I really need to send a thank you to the press who have handled our case. You truly on the most part have shown compassion towards us and you have helped us. Thank you for that.
Haleigh Cummings family and the press
Link:
http://www.jacksonville.com/news/metro/2009-02-22/story/fox_anchor_banned_from_camp_of_missing_girls_father
Fox anchor banned from camp of missing girl's father
Fox News anchor Geraldo Rivera was issued a trespass warning after a contentious interview with the father of a missing Putnam County girl.
As the search for 5-year-old Haleigh Cummings entered its 13th day, the county was abuzz about the contentious interview with her father Saturday night with Rivera.
Cummings got upset when Rivera said he'd been told by members of Haleigh's mother's family that Cummings hit the child and has said he is 75 percent sure he knows who has her.
Putnam County Sheriff’s deputies arrived on the scene later, and issued Rivera the trespass warning at the request of the two property owners on whose land the Cummings family is camping while their trailer remains closed off as a crime scene.
A trespass warning means Rivera would be arrested if he came back onto the property. Rivera told deputies he understood and stated he would not come back to the address, but declined to sign the trespass warning, according to a sheriff’s office report.
Obviously there's still no news of little Haleigh. And now it's not just the speculators it's the speculating press. What's Rivera trying to do? Is he trying to upstage the Nancy Grace debacle that cost Trenton Duckett mother's life.
Geez this stuff really upsets me.
LEAVE THE FAMILY ALONE!!!!! WE DON'T HAVE ANY FACTS YET!!!!! LET'S FIND THE LITTLE GIRL!!!! THEN START PUTTING THE PERSON OR PERSONS ON TRIAL. BUT LET'S FIRST FIGURE OUT WHO SHOULD GO ON TRIAL AND IF AND WHAT CRIME HAS BEEN COMMITTED.
I'm so angry at FoxNews right now. this is disgusting. This is the press at it's worst.
Dang! This makes so angry.
Thank goodness the press has been kind to my family.
I can't imagine having a lost child and having to deal with the likes of Geraldo Rivera, who apparently is a predator. He's definitely preying on other people's tragedies.
Dear Cummings family! Stay strong! And stay united! If and when Kayleigh does come home, she'll need you to be united.
I pray she comes home soon.
http://www.jacksonville.com/news/metro/2009-02-22/story/fox_anchor_banned_from_camp_of_missing_girls_father
Fox anchor banned from camp of missing girl's father
Fox News anchor Geraldo Rivera was issued a trespass warning after a contentious interview with the father of a missing Putnam County girl.
As the search for 5-year-old Haleigh Cummings entered its 13th day, the county was abuzz about the contentious interview with her father Saturday night with Rivera.
Cummings got upset when Rivera said he'd been told by members of Haleigh's mother's family that Cummings hit the child and has said he is 75 percent sure he knows who has her.
Putnam County Sheriff’s deputies arrived on the scene later, and issued Rivera the trespass warning at the request of the two property owners on whose land the Cummings family is camping while their trailer remains closed off as a crime scene.
A trespass warning means Rivera would be arrested if he came back onto the property. Rivera told deputies he understood and stated he would not come back to the address, but declined to sign the trespass warning, according to a sheriff’s office report.
Obviously there's still no news of little Haleigh. And now it's not just the speculators it's the speculating press. What's Rivera trying to do? Is he trying to upstage the Nancy Grace debacle that cost Trenton Duckett mother's life.
Geez this stuff really upsets me.
LEAVE THE FAMILY ALONE!!!!! WE DON'T HAVE ANY FACTS YET!!!!! LET'S FIND THE LITTLE GIRL!!!! THEN START PUTTING THE PERSON OR PERSONS ON TRIAL. BUT LET'S FIRST FIGURE OUT WHO SHOULD GO ON TRIAL AND IF AND WHAT CRIME HAS BEEN COMMITTED.
I'm so angry at FoxNews right now. this is disgusting. This is the press at it's worst.
Dang! This makes so angry.
Thank goodness the press has been kind to my family.
I can't imagine having a lost child and having to deal with the likes of Geraldo Rivera, who apparently is a predator. He's definitely preying on other people's tragedies.
Dear Cummings family! Stay strong! And stay united! If and when Kayleigh does come home, she'll need you to be united.
I pray she comes home soon.
Friday, February 20, 2009
Haleigh Cummings and family
I can't get this family out of my mind. This family is under an unbelievable amount of strain.
Pray they stay strong and focused.
Pray they don't let their anger take over their senses and that they maintain a united front.
Pray they lean on each other and the police as much as possible.
Pray they don't let the speculators get to them. Those people don't have a clue as to what this family is going through.
Pray they find the S. O. B. who has taken this little girl. Whether the person be male of female to inflict this kind of pain on a child and her family he/she has to be evil. Sadly it could be more than one person.
Deep breath.
I must be healing. For a long time after we lost Denise I wasn't able to let other people's pain in. I was oblivious to the world around me. I'm still pretty oblivious but apparently not as oblivious as I was. I couldn't handle any more additional pain at the time.
Now, I just get so angry at people. I wasn't able to follow the Caylee Anthony story while Caylee was missing. I couldn't wrap my mind around it. I wasn't angry then. I was oblivious and numb. When people were speculating about the mother Casey, I blocked it out and stayed away from it. That story was so bazaar. Still is. I could feel myself getting angry with that family and that was wrong. We still don't know the whole story and until we do, I'm going to continue to do my best to not judge them. I simply don't understand them. It's so so terrible what they are going through.
I'm just heartbroken for the Cummings family. Their lives (they probably don't realize it yet) are now changed irrevocably forever.
Major sigh. It just saddens me.
Dear Denise, if Haleigh is with you, please rock her! But then if she's up there, you probably already are. Miss you, Denise.
Pray they stay strong and focused.
Pray they don't let their anger take over their senses and that they maintain a united front.
Pray they lean on each other and the police as much as possible.
Pray they don't let the speculators get to them. Those people don't have a clue as to what this family is going through.
Pray they find the S. O. B. who has taken this little girl. Whether the person be male of female to inflict this kind of pain on a child and her family he/she has to be evil. Sadly it could be more than one person.
Deep breath.
I must be healing. For a long time after we lost Denise I wasn't able to let other people's pain in. I was oblivious to the world around me. I'm still pretty oblivious but apparently not as oblivious as I was. I couldn't handle any more additional pain at the time.
Now, I just get so angry at people. I wasn't able to follow the Caylee Anthony story while Caylee was missing. I couldn't wrap my mind around it. I wasn't angry then. I was oblivious and numb. When people were speculating about the mother Casey, I blocked it out and stayed away from it. That story was so bazaar. Still is. I could feel myself getting angry with that family and that was wrong. We still don't know the whole story and until we do, I'm going to continue to do my best to not judge them. I simply don't understand them. It's so so terrible what they are going through.
I'm just heartbroken for the Cummings family. Their lives (they probably don't realize it yet) are now changed irrevocably forever.
Major sigh. It just saddens me.
Dear Denise, if Haleigh is with you, please rock her! But then if she's up there, you probably already are. Miss you, Denise.
Thursday, February 19, 2009
Rhymes and Reasons
I posted this song a few weeks ago and feel an uncanny need to post it again. I realize that with Haleigh Cummings still missing maybe there's a need to share this.
Babies and children are so very beautiful. And they are our future!
I love this song. It's beautiful in it's simplicity.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rPpRyjTP0a0&feature=related
So you speak to me of sadness
And the coming of the winter
Fear that is within you now
It seems to never end
And the dreams that have escaped you
And the hope that youve forgotten
You tell me that you need me now
You want to be my friend
And you wonder where were going
Wheres the rhyme and wheres the reason
And its you cannot accept
It is here we must begin
To seek the wisdom of the children
And the graceful way of flowers in the wind
For the children and the flowers
Are my sisters and my brothers
Their laughter and their loveliness
Could clear a cloudy day
Like the music of the mountains
And the colours of the rainbow
Theyre a promise of the future
And a blessing for today
Though the cities start to crumble
And the towers fall around us
The sun is slowly fading
And its colder than the sea
It is written from the desert
To the mountains they shall lead us
By the hand and by the heart
They will comfort you and me
In their innocence and trusting
They will teach us to be free
For the children and the flowers
Are my sisters and my brothers
Their laughter and their loveliness
Could clear a cloudy day
And the song that I am singing
Is a prayer to non believers
Come and stand beside us
We can find a better way
Words and music by john denver
Babies and children are so very beautiful. And they are our future!
I love this song. It's beautiful in it's simplicity.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rPpRyjTP0a0&feature=related
So you speak to me of sadness
And the coming of the winter
Fear that is within you now
It seems to never end
And the dreams that have escaped you
And the hope that youve forgotten
You tell me that you need me now
You want to be my friend
And you wonder where were going
Wheres the rhyme and wheres the reason
And its you cannot accept
It is here we must begin
To seek the wisdom of the children
And the graceful way of flowers in the wind
For the children and the flowers
Are my sisters and my brothers
Their laughter and their loveliness
Could clear a cloudy day
Like the music of the mountains
And the colours of the rainbow
Theyre a promise of the future
And a blessing for today
Though the cities start to crumble
And the towers fall around us
The sun is slowly fading
And its colder than the sea
It is written from the desert
To the mountains they shall lead us
By the hand and by the heart
They will comfort you and me
In their innocence and trusting
They will teach us to be free
For the children and the flowers
Are my sisters and my brothers
Their laughter and their loveliness
Could clear a cloudy day
And the song that I am singing
Is a prayer to non believers
Come and stand beside us
We can find a better way
Words and music by john denver
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
More speculation about Haleigh Cummings
Mark came home tonight telling me about a sports radio talk show he listens to on a regular basis. And the two men were speculating some not so nice things. I don't know if they are right in their speculations or wrong.
They were speculating about Haleigh's mom. They were speculating about Haleigh's dad. They were speculating about the girlfriend. They were speculating as to why police weren't looking into this family.
I submit to you that the police are looking into this family.
At least I hope so.
But still.... WE DON'T KNOW BEANS RIGHT NOW!!!
Gosh, I dread what's going on or what has happened to this little girl.
What have we come to as people? Are we animals preying on our young?
What in the world is going on? I just don't get it.
I can't stop crying. Sorry. Bad enough and heartbreaking enough to consider strangers doing something horrific to this little girl. But to think that someone in her only family could do something to her........ it should be ludicrous. Sadly, it's not so ludicrous. Nothing could shock me now.
But I still think it's wrong to judge people without knowing all the facts.
Sorry.
They were speculating about Haleigh's mom. They were speculating about Haleigh's dad. They were speculating about the girlfriend. They were speculating as to why police weren't looking into this family.
I submit to you that the police are looking into this family.
At least I hope so.
But still.... WE DON'T KNOW BEANS RIGHT NOW!!!
Gosh, I dread what's going on or what has happened to this little girl.
What have we come to as people? Are we animals preying on our young?
What in the world is going on? I just don't get it.
I can't stop crying. Sorry. Bad enough and heartbreaking enough to consider strangers doing something horrific to this little girl. But to think that someone in her only family could do something to her........ it should be ludicrous. Sadly, it's not so ludicrous. Nothing could shock me now.
But I still think it's wrong to judge people without knowing all the facts.
Sorry.
No news is bad news
Still no news on little Haleigh Cummings. And in this case I imagine no news is bad news. I simply don't know what to think. I haven't been able to watch much news on TV. I remember when Denise went missing a lot of what was reported wasn't exactly misleading but simply not spot on.
It's frustrating. I guess what happened with Denise has jaded my opinion of the credibility of TV news sources. I really don't know how to word what I'm trying to say.
Let me try and spell it out if not for you at least for myself.
Do I trust TV news? Yes and no. Do I believe everything I see on TV? Definitely not. Do I believe TV crews purposefully mislead people? Not really. Maybe a little. But, no, I think they just want to keep a story alive.
Aside here: It's important to keep stories like Haleigh Cummings alive. We never want people to lose interest in finding a lost person, especially a child. So the fact that they are keeping this story alive is a good thing.
But in keeping the story alive, do they keep repeating themselves? Yes. Do they grasp at straws? Yes.
What about the Nancy Grace's and the Greta Van Susteran's of the world? Are they ambulance chasers making a buck over other people's misfortune? Yes. Do they truly care? I don't know. I guess Nancy Grace does.
A lot of people don't like Nancy Grace. I have difficulty watching her show. She seems to be a fairly bitter woman. Almost a shrew. I have nightmares that if I let my anger really take over that I'll become bitter too. I'll become a shrew. Apparently Nancy Grace has reason to be angry and bitter.
This is what wiki has to say about Nancy Grace:
"As a student, Grace was a fan of Shakespearean literature, and intended to become an English professor after graduating from college.[2] However, after the murder of her fiancé, Keith Griffin, when she was 19, Grace decided to enroll in law school and went on to become a felony prosecutor and a supporter of victims' rights.[4]"
I have to respect and admire that. I understand it too. I imagine that changed her world forever, just as Denise's murder has changed my world.
I know I'm not the same person I was before Denise died. And, I too, want to channel my anger and energies to where they may make a difference by helping others. Whether it's through 9-1-1 reform, helping to raise my grandbabies, or simply speaking out about homicide grief.
I have a difficult time watching Nancy Grace. I know from different people they have a difficult time reading my blog. I lack the social tact and graces I used to have. I understand at least some of what Nancy Grace is all about. Her world was shattered and blown apart. And she was only 19 years old.
Greta Van Susteran though. I don't get her. And, I like FoxNews. But Greta's show soured on me during the Natalie Holloway case. I was so sick of it. I still am sick of it. And that upsets me because Natalie Holloway deserves the same compassion as Denise did and does. But because it's been "over" reported people have become numb to it. That just seems wrong.
Both Nancy Grace and Greta Van Susteran tried to do a story with Nate. But at the time we weren't interested.
In any case, little Haleigh's story needs to be kept alive, at least until they find her. And then if it's bad (and I imagine by now it's going to be bad) it needs to stay out there so we can take care of what went wrong.
What is it about Florida? Pilar Rodriguez, Caylee Anthony, Jessica Lunsford, Carlie Brucia, Trenton Duckett, Coral Rose Fullwood, and now Haleigh Cummings.
Now I'm not saying Haleigh is dead or even that Pilar is dead. We don't know. But they are missing and the pain and suffering their families are going through no matter how many years apart must still be intense.
It's interesting. I wish they'd keep these stories alive. I think of the Missouri boy, Shawn Hornbeck, quite often. Even before Denise went missing, I thought of him quite a bit and posted messages on his website. I'd love to know how he's doing. I know it would be an invasion of his privacy and his world has been messed with enough. But, I'd truly like to know that he's doing okay.
Excuse me for rambling about this. I'm just trying to get my thoughts straight
Denise Amber Lee case and Other news
Really there is not a whole lot of news right now. The case is moving forward. We think it'll be August 2008 but we're not banking on it.
The boys are doing well. They are happy again. They went through a spell of...... I don't know. They just weren't themselves but they are again. We're trying to potty train Noah and we're trying to wean Adam off the bottle.
Adam is talking up a storm. Repeats everything. He's also very independent. He runs now and is trying to learn to jump. This is scary because he's becoming a climber. And he's an eating machine. You have it, he wants it. He has it, he wants more. He'll eat just about anything.
Noah is no longer a baby. Noah has blossomed into a little boy. And he's all boy! He's now talking in full sentences. He can now discuss his feelings. He knows who lives down which roads. For example if we pass MomMom's street in the car, he'll say "MomMom's road!" He can tell you how to get from the house to the store by giving directions.
Both still love to be held though. Noah won't always give kisses and hugs anymore but he still enjoys just cozying up on Mark's or my lap.
I miss Denise all the time. Now that I'm reading "Peace is Every Step" I don't think about Denise 24/7 as I was doing. I've been practicing my breathing and smiling. It seems to be working.
And now that Nathan has a new lawyer I'm not nearly as obssessed with the Charlotte County Sheriff Office's I/A report into Jane Kowalski's mishandled 9-1-1 call.
I still worry about Nathan. I guess I always will. It breaks my heart to see him continually try to adjust to his new life without Denise. He does really really well. I'm so proud of him. But it's still hard. I'm glad we're here for him. And the Goffs. I'm glad they're here for him too.
If you're reading this, Brian, I miss you! Come home soon!!!
added edit: I just looked on the FDLE website for missing children. http://www.fdle.state.fl.us/mcicsearch/UnsolvedAlerts.asp
Pilar is not listed. Was she found? I don't know because she's still listed on the Charlotte County Sheriff Office's website.
http://www.ccso.org/localcrime/unsolved_detail.cfm?r=9
Also looking at the FDLE website Haleigh Cummings is the correct spelling (Tammy you were right) and it's not Hayleigh Cummings.
It's frustrating. I guess what happened with Denise has jaded my opinion of the credibility of TV news sources. I really don't know how to word what I'm trying to say.
Let me try and spell it out if not for you at least for myself.
Do I trust TV news? Yes and no. Do I believe everything I see on TV? Definitely not. Do I believe TV crews purposefully mislead people? Not really. Maybe a little. But, no, I think they just want to keep a story alive.
Aside here: It's important to keep stories like Haleigh Cummings alive. We never want people to lose interest in finding a lost person, especially a child. So the fact that they are keeping this story alive is a good thing.
But in keeping the story alive, do they keep repeating themselves? Yes. Do they grasp at straws? Yes.
What about the Nancy Grace's and the Greta Van Susteran's of the world? Are they ambulance chasers making a buck over other people's misfortune? Yes. Do they truly care? I don't know. I guess Nancy Grace does.
A lot of people don't like Nancy Grace. I have difficulty watching her show. She seems to be a fairly bitter woman. Almost a shrew. I have nightmares that if I let my anger really take over that I'll become bitter too. I'll become a shrew. Apparently Nancy Grace has reason to be angry and bitter.
This is what wiki has to say about Nancy Grace:
"As a student, Grace was a fan of Shakespearean literature, and intended to become an English professor after graduating from college.[2] However, after the murder of her fiancé, Keith Griffin, when she was 19, Grace decided to enroll in law school and went on to become a felony prosecutor and a supporter of victims' rights.[4]"
I have to respect and admire that. I understand it too. I imagine that changed her world forever, just as Denise's murder has changed my world.
I know I'm not the same person I was before Denise died. And, I too, want to channel my anger and energies to where they may make a difference by helping others. Whether it's through 9-1-1 reform, helping to raise my grandbabies, or simply speaking out about homicide grief.
I have a difficult time watching Nancy Grace. I know from different people they have a difficult time reading my blog. I lack the social tact and graces I used to have. I understand at least some of what Nancy Grace is all about. Her world was shattered and blown apart. And she was only 19 years old.
Greta Van Susteran though. I don't get her. And, I like FoxNews. But Greta's show soured on me during the Natalie Holloway case. I was so sick of it. I still am sick of it. And that upsets me because Natalie Holloway deserves the same compassion as Denise did and does. But because it's been "over" reported people have become numb to it. That just seems wrong.
Both Nancy Grace and Greta Van Susteran tried to do a story with Nate. But at the time we weren't interested.
In any case, little Haleigh's story needs to be kept alive, at least until they find her. And then if it's bad (and I imagine by now it's going to be bad) it needs to stay out there so we can take care of what went wrong.
What is it about Florida? Pilar Rodriguez, Caylee Anthony, Jessica Lunsford, Carlie Brucia, Trenton Duckett, Coral Rose Fullwood, and now Haleigh Cummings.
Now I'm not saying Haleigh is dead or even that Pilar is dead. We don't know. But they are missing and the pain and suffering their families are going through no matter how many years apart must still be intense.
It's interesting. I wish they'd keep these stories alive. I think of the Missouri boy, Shawn Hornbeck, quite often. Even before Denise went missing, I thought of him quite a bit and posted messages on his website. I'd love to know how he's doing. I know it would be an invasion of his privacy and his world has been messed with enough. But, I'd truly like to know that he's doing okay.
Excuse me for rambling about this. I'm just trying to get my thoughts straight
Denise Amber Lee case and Other news
Really there is not a whole lot of news right now. The case is moving forward. We think it'll be August 2008 but we're not banking on it.
The boys are doing well. They are happy again. They went through a spell of...... I don't know. They just weren't themselves but they are again. We're trying to potty train Noah and we're trying to wean Adam off the bottle.
Adam is talking up a storm. Repeats everything. He's also very independent. He runs now and is trying to learn to jump. This is scary because he's becoming a climber. And he's an eating machine. You have it, he wants it. He has it, he wants more. He'll eat just about anything.
Noah is no longer a baby. Noah has blossomed into a little boy. And he's all boy! He's now talking in full sentences. He can now discuss his feelings. He knows who lives down which roads. For example if we pass MomMom's street in the car, he'll say "MomMom's road!" He can tell you how to get from the house to the store by giving directions.
Both still love to be held though. Noah won't always give kisses and hugs anymore but he still enjoys just cozying up on Mark's or my lap.
I miss Denise all the time. Now that I'm reading "Peace is Every Step" I don't think about Denise 24/7 as I was doing. I've been practicing my breathing and smiling. It seems to be working.
And now that Nathan has a new lawyer I'm not nearly as obssessed with the Charlotte County Sheriff Office's I/A report into Jane Kowalski's mishandled 9-1-1 call.
I still worry about Nathan. I guess I always will. It breaks my heart to see him continually try to adjust to his new life without Denise. He does really really well. I'm so proud of him. But it's still hard. I'm glad we're here for him. And the Goffs. I'm glad they're here for him too.
If you're reading this, Brian, I miss you! Come home soon!!!
added edit: I just looked on the FDLE website for missing children. http://www.fdle.state.fl.us/mcicsearch/UnsolvedAlerts.asp
Pilar is not listed. Was she found? I don't know because she's still listed on the Charlotte County Sheriff Office's website.
http://www.ccso.org/localcrime/unsolved_detail.cfm?r=9
Also looking at the FDLE website Haleigh Cummings is the correct spelling (Tammy you were right) and it's not Hayleigh Cummings.
Saturday, February 14, 2009
Haleigh Cummings or is it Hayleigh Cummings and speculation
I sure wish they'd find this little girl and people would back off with their speculation on what happened.
I also wish they'd report the correct spelling for the poor lost little girl. I still can't figure out if it's "Haleigh" or "Hayleigh". Maybe I'm just dim.
It seems disrespectful to be typing the wrong spelling.
When Denise was first reported missing all the news reports kept calling her "Amber". It drove us crazy! We kept telling them, she's not Amber she's DENISE! But they continued to report Amber as if to sensationalize the story even further. In any case it was like sticking needles in us. People to this day still say Amber! As recently as this past week someone said "oh, I'm so sorry about Amber. I've been following her story." All because in those first few days that's how the story was aired.
I think people who have never gone through anything like this before don't understand how much just one little statement can hurt. One little word can feel like a dagger in the heart. That's how distressed we were and most of the time still are. And that's how distressed this family is.
I realize people say stupid things because they don't know what to say. And I realize that families like ours are super sensitive. We don't know what to say either.
What ever the case, sure! Maybe someone inside the family circle harmed this little girl. And sure! Maybe one of them was neglectful. But just as sure a stranger may have crept in and taken her the way that evil monster Couey crept into Jessica Lunsford's home and snatched her! Everyone was so sure that because the family lived in a trailer, someone in the family was responsible. The only facts in Haleigh's story right now are that we don't have any. We don't know what happened. And it's the entire family who is in pain. The entire family. So the speculation hurts them all. And aren't they hurting enough?????????
I remember people speculating about my son Nathan. I remember people speculating about Denise. I remember the not so whispered "Well, she must've known him!" and the "why would she have let him in!"
Well he had a gun people! Obviously since he shot her in the head, it's clear he had a gun! And she had two babies she needed to protect.
Anyhow, I wish I knew how to spell Haleigh's name correctly. And I wish people wouldn't speculate. It's hurtful.
And, yeah, I too think the girl friend "Misty" is a little young but who am I to judge? And who am I to put these people on trial? Let's find the precious baby. Let's lay out the facts and then put on trial whoever is responsible.
I do understand the need and the compulsion to find answers. We all want answers. We all want to find her and by speculating people are simply puzzling over everything and trying to figure out what happened.
All I'm saying is we can't judge anyone until we know the facts. And right now there are no facts.
I know how angry I sound. These stories just put me back into that place. We're blessed in so many ways, my family is. We have the babies safe and sound. The perpetrator is behind bars. It seems to be an open and shut case for us. We do have the trial coming up. Ugh! And we do have the 9-1-1 issues we're contending with. Ugh! But we have the support of so many people.
So, I'll take my anger back and ask very gently, please, please, please, try not to judge this family until we know what's going on. For the sake of this heartbroken family who can't find their little girl let's try not to be hard on them. Trust me, they are in a kinda of pain that can't begin to be imagined.
Just my opinion as always.
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2009/02/13/earlyshow/main4799710.shtml
I also wish they'd report the correct spelling for the poor lost little girl. I still can't figure out if it's "Haleigh" or "Hayleigh". Maybe I'm just dim.
It seems disrespectful to be typing the wrong spelling.
When Denise was first reported missing all the news reports kept calling her "Amber". It drove us crazy! We kept telling them, she's not Amber she's DENISE! But they continued to report Amber as if to sensationalize the story even further. In any case it was like sticking needles in us. People to this day still say Amber! As recently as this past week someone said "oh, I'm so sorry about Amber. I've been following her story." All because in those first few days that's how the story was aired.
I think people who have never gone through anything like this before don't understand how much just one little statement can hurt. One little word can feel like a dagger in the heart. That's how distressed we were and most of the time still are. And that's how distressed this family is.
I realize people say stupid things because they don't know what to say. And I realize that families like ours are super sensitive. We don't know what to say either.
What ever the case, sure! Maybe someone inside the family circle harmed this little girl. And sure! Maybe one of them was neglectful. But just as sure a stranger may have crept in and taken her the way that evil monster Couey crept into Jessica Lunsford's home and snatched her! Everyone was so sure that because the family lived in a trailer, someone in the family was responsible. The only facts in Haleigh's story right now are that we don't have any. We don't know what happened. And it's the entire family who is in pain. The entire family. So the speculation hurts them all. And aren't they hurting enough?????????
I remember people speculating about my son Nathan. I remember people speculating about Denise. I remember the not so whispered "Well, she must've known him!" and the "why would she have let him in!"
Well he had a gun people! Obviously since he shot her in the head, it's clear he had a gun! And she had two babies she needed to protect.
Anyhow, I wish I knew how to spell Haleigh's name correctly. And I wish people wouldn't speculate. It's hurtful.
And, yeah, I too think the girl friend "Misty" is a little young but who am I to judge? And who am I to put these people on trial? Let's find the precious baby. Let's lay out the facts and then put on trial whoever is responsible.
I do understand the need and the compulsion to find answers. We all want answers. We all want to find her and by speculating people are simply puzzling over everything and trying to figure out what happened.
All I'm saying is we can't judge anyone until we know the facts. And right now there are no facts.
I know how angry I sound. These stories just put me back into that place. We're blessed in so many ways, my family is. We have the babies safe and sound. The perpetrator is behind bars. It seems to be an open and shut case for us. We do have the trial coming up. Ugh! And we do have the 9-1-1 issues we're contending with. Ugh! But we have the support of so many people.
So, I'll take my anger back and ask very gently, please, please, please, try not to judge this family until we know what's going on. For the sake of this heartbroken family who can't find their little girl let's try not to be hard on them. Trust me, they are in a kinda of pain that can't begin to be imagined.
Just my opinion as always.
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2009/02/13/earlyshow/main4799710.shtml
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